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From: Michael Neill <>
Subject: Re: [APG] Introduction and need help with a sticky situation
Date: Sun, 28 Aug 2005 18:05:39 -0500
References: <08ac01c5ac23$ac6ca000$6401a8c0@PaulaLaptop>
In-Reply-To: <08ac01c5ac23$ac6ca000$6401a8c0@PaulaLaptop>

All good suggestions.

Having recently located a long lost branch of my family, I too was
somewhat apprehensive about making contact (in my case I called, but a
letter is an excellent idea) with the granddaughter of my
great-grandmother's half sister.

In this case, I reviewed information about that half-sister, her
sisters and her parents so that I could provide this information to
the relative (I didn't want her thinking I was trying to pull a con).
Providing these names and details helped to convince her who I was (it
also helped that I was readily familiar with the geography of where
all these people lived).

I wrote up an article about my experience and it is posted at:

I won't repost the whole thing here. Some suggestions are more
appropriate for phone contact, but some also apply to letters as well.

Good luck.

On 8/28/05, Paula Stuart-Warren <> wrote:
> Welcome to APG and this list.
> Another tip is that when you write the note to the family, be sure to give
> them some brief details about you and your mother. Offer to share more, old
> pictures, etc. That way they may feel that you have been "open" and may feel
> likewise. Don't ask them for more than just trying to make contact so that
> they aren't scared off. Many of us have had uneasy feelings when contacting
> distant family members, but if handled sensitively, things generally "go
> right."
Michael John Neill
October 2005 Genealogy Workshops Dearborn, Michigan

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