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Subject: Re: [APG] Surname on tombstone for woman with multiple marriages
Date: Sat, 26 Apr 2008 20:37:33 +0000
This is a tough question. I have discussed this with my mother, who was widowed three times and is now in her 90s. She has one child from each of the first two marriages. None of our family lives near where any of her husbands are buried. Her name is on the gravestones for both her second and her third husbands. (The first was lost at sea in WWII) She has finally decided to be buried next to her two sisters, nearby the graves for her parents and grandparents, in the town where she was born (also several states away from her current residence). We will have to figure out whether we will put all four of her surnames on the stone. I am leaning toward doing this, but it might make the stone awkward looking. Since her two sisters were both married, and only have their married names on their stones, it won't be obvious how she is related to anyone else in that plot. A mystery for a future genealogist to solve!
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From: "Richard A. Pence" <>
> "Gary Mokotoff" wrote:
> > An interesting question was posed to me:
> > A woman was married, had children, and later in life her husband dies. She
> > remarries and assumes the surname of her second husband. She has no
> > additional children but she is married for a good number of years to her
> > second husband before she dies.
> > What should be the surname(s) on her tombstone? Is the appropriate
> > surname(s) a function of whether she had additional children by the second
> > marriage? Suppose she was married for only a brief time to her second
> > husband before she died?
> It is the children who usually end up deciding where she is buried and under
> what name. In cases where there are no children by the second marriage and
> the woman outlives her second husband, I've noticed that often the woman
> will be buried with her first husband under his name.
> Richard P.
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