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From: Jackie King <>
Subject: Re: [APG] Surname on tombstone for woman with multiple marriages
Date: Sat, 26 Apr 2008 16:07:56 -0500
My children and I discussed this recently, although I am long from
having one foot in the grave, I hope.
My first husband and I were divorced after 13 years although because of
the situation and the laws as they were in the state in which we lived
at the time, I remained legally and financially responsible for him - I
spent the next several years raising my children as a single mother and
then remarried. Hopefully, my second spouse and I will celebrate our
13th anniversary this December.
When I remarried, for professional reasons I kept my first spouse's name.
My first husband died last year and is buried with his parents, a
brother and a sister. There is room there for another two brothers and
me if I choose.
My parents bought extra plots - there is room there for me and my
present husband, if I choose - and to be honest, there was room for my
first had my children wanted that.
My present husband is a three tour Vietnam Vet of which he is very
proud. He has decided he wants to be buried in the new Veterans cemetery
that is being constructed here in Iowa. As his spouse I can be buried
Barring the unforseen, I will probably outlive my present husband. I
have decided I will probably go for the last option. At least that is
the way it presently stands. Now of course the marker in a vets cemetery
is a totally different story .....
> This is a tough question. I have discussed this with my mother, who was widowed three times and is now in her 90s. She has one child from each of the first two marriages. None of our family lives near where any of her husbands are buried. Her name is on the gravestones for both her second and her third husbands. (The first was lost at sea in WWII) She has finally decided to be buried next to her two sisters, nearby the graves for her parents and grandparents, in the town where she was born (also several states away from her current residence). We will have to figure out whether we will put all four of her surnames on the stone. I am leaning toward doing this, but it might make the stone awkward looking. Since her two sisters were both married, and only have their married names on their stones, it won't be obvious how she is related to anyone else in that plot. A mystery for a future genealogist to solve!
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