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From: "Alvie L. Davidson CG" <>
Subject: Re: [APG] what's all the fuss?
Date: Tue, 30 Jun 2009 11:13:53 -0400
In-Reply-To: <4A49D5FE.22632.584A0D@hhsh.earthlink.net>

Harold.. I could not have said better..

Alvie L. Davidson CG
Lakeland, Florida

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-----Original Message-----
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Sent: Tuesday, June 30, 2009 10:08 AM
Subject: Re: [APG] what's all the fuss?

Craig and Mike made me think.

One reason the standard of decorum on this list is higher than on other open
lists is that our objective is professional: therefore, self-improvement
should come before self-expression. (I know I'm most likely to go wrong when
I forget

Some specific ways to maintain that standard:

* Stick to our subject; leave religious and political proselytization out of

* Argue issues, not personalities. NO AD HOMINEM. Recognize that it's OK to
agree to disagree once positions have been made clear. Those are the
occasions when silence really is golden. (Another situation: sometimes
people ask questions on list that could have been answered by consulting a
standard reference book -- and sometimes the ensuing civil discussion
nevertheless turns up new information for all of us.)

* When in doubt, or in the throes of a vigorous discussion, sleep on your
draft post and read it over in cold blood. Getting the words and thoughts
right the first time can avoid misunderstanding. (If you're never in doubt,
you may be missing the point.)

* Expect to have your ideas criticized. Expect to be corrected. Expect to
learn something new. Don't take it personally.

* Don't encourage those who consistently violate the above maxims by
replying in kind.

In short, as our moms would undoubetedly have said, find ways to disagree
without being disagreeable.

What do you think?


Harold Henderson
Research and Writing from Northwest Indiana home office
219/324-2620 http://midwesternmicrohistory.blogspot.com


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