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From: "Barb Boyer" <>
Subject: Re: Brethren Ancestral File
Date: Mon, 1 Jun 1998 07:22:42 -0600


I agree with Joan and I'm ging to stick my two cents worth into
this conversation. I don't think Doneva's need to know about her
ancestory is any different from ours as natural born of our parents.
It has nothing to do with who brought us up or loved us, but the
need to know and desire to know about the past. That is what each
and every one of us involved in genealogy is doing. FINDING OUT
ABOUT THE UNKNOWN. Our reasons may vary( and it is not ours to
judge those reasons), but need, or want, to known is just as strong
or we wouldn't be doing what we are doing. This has no reflection
on our upbring, respect or disrespect for our parents. Now I have
had my say too. Thanks for listening, by the way I am not adopted.

Barbara
> > Date: Sun, 31 May 1998 15:56:59 EDT
> > > From:
> > > To:
> > > Subject: Re: Brethren Ancestral File
> >
> > > In a message dated 98-05-31 15:42:42 EDT, writes:
> > >
> > > > I'm sure your adoptive Mother must have rolled over in her grave when she
> > > > read what you just wrote.
> > >
> > > M.K., I don't want to start a discussion that gets too far afield from the
> > > purpose of this list but I think your comment above requires a reply. I think
> > > you are misreading Doneva's message. She never once said her adoptive parents
> > > were NOT her PARENTS and didn't raise her well and lovingly as best they
> > > could--in fact her message specifically did say that.
> > >
> > > That doesn't change the fact that Doneva had an overwhelming unexplaned need
> > > to learn about her BIOLOGICAL roots--these are two very different things
> > > indeed!!! One is environmental and one biological. If you had been
> > > adopted--how would you like it if someone (governmental agency or whatever)
> > > told you that YOU had no RIGHT to information you needed to establish your
> > > genetic heritage (including your family's medical history)! I think you would
> > > agree with everything that Doneva stated in her message. I think anyone who
> > > has a natural curiosity about what their genetic makeup and family history
> > > were all about WOULD feel a part of themselves was missing without that
> > > knowledge. In some instances that knowledge can be lifesaving. In others it
> > > merely fills a spiritual need that would be hard for the rest of us who grew
> > > up with our "natural" parents to even contemplate.
> > >
> > > Now I will get off my soapbox and back to genealogy. :-)
> > >
> > > Joan
> > >
> > > ______________________________
> > >
> >
>

Barb Boyer
Abingdon, IL

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