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Subject: Re: [BRE] Lydia (Brubaker) Flora: Carroll Co., IN
Date: Fri, 23 May 2003 17:41:44 EDT
>Apparently there was a tradition of marrying soon after the first spouse
died in that particular Harter family. Joseph Harter became a widower in May 1856
[and Michael Emerick also died Jan 1856.] Joseph Harter and his 2nd wife,
Judith Noffsinger Emerick/Emrick were married [Oct 1856 Darke Co., OH ] that
same year !!!
I think quick remarriages were the norm, not the exception, out of practical
necessity. Certainly most of my Brethren ancestors were farmers [as were the
bulk of the population until the 20th century]. Since a number of early
female deaths were the result of childbirth complications, the widower was left
with a baby which he could not take care of and farm also. As a corollary, I
have seen many records where the younger [read not productive workers] children
of widowers were living with relatives, presumably so they could be better
taken care of. On the other side of the coin, it was quite difficult for a widow
to raise children and somehow also make a living. So there was lots of
practical incentive for both men and women to remarry quickly.
As an aside: I do have one widowed GGM who seems to have been well enough
off that she lived with young children for 12 years before remarrying, and she
was listed in Census records as a "farmer" - I interpret this as she owned the
land, managed it, hired people to work for her, and she raised the kids. When
she finally remarried [to a widower] in 1888 they had a pre-nuptial
agreement(!) that each would keep their own land, and that the other had no inheritance
right to it. They were old enough that they had no children together, and
when they died the husband was buried with his first wife, and my GGM was buried
with her first husband.
In a message dated 5/21/2003 8:39:12 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
> I might add this also to your conversation as an aside. Recently I found
> the grave of Judith (Noffsinger) Emerick-Harter as many of you know after an
> exhausting search.
> My point here is this:
> Apparently there was a tradition of marrying soon after the first spouse
> died in that particular Harter family. Joseph Harter became a widower in May
> 1856 [and Michael Emerick also died Jan 1856.] Joseph Harter and his 2nd
> wife, Judith Noffsinger Emerick/Emrick were married [Oct 1856 Darke Co.,
> OH ] that same year !!! Odd but true sincethat would be at least two anyway.
> Joseph Harter was the brother of Phoebe (Harter) Brubaker.
> Otis Brubaker, Judith Harter's son in law [m her daughter Eliza
> Emerick/Emrick] was the son of Abraham and Elizabeth Flora Brubaker. and
> the g son of John and Anna Myer Brubaker. [1748-1825].
> I have long concurred with Dwayne on the date of John Brubaker birth also,
> having been aware of the Richard Warren Davis Book for some years now.
> Anyway an interesting discussion and something to think about.
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Bob Harter (by way of Joe Bosserman <>)"
> To: <>
> Sent: Tuesday, May 20, 2003 4:01 AM
> Subject: [BRE] Lydia (Brubaker) Flora: Carroll Co., IN
> > I have that the John Brubaker who married Anna Myers was born abut
> >in Germany, married Anna 1 May 1774 in Lancaster Co., PA and died 1824 in
> >Botetourt Co., VA. I did not have his emigration date.
> > Their son, John, was born 1 Jul 1777 in Lancaster Co., PA, and married
> >Phoebe Harter 10 Aug 1798 in Franklin Co., VA. I have that Phoebe died 28
> >Nov 1816 in Lanier Twp., Preble Co., OH and he married Mary Frantz Oct
> >I assume one if these dates is wrong - he surely would not have married
> >before Phoebe had died ...... would he? In any case, Phoebe left him with
> >eight children between 2 and 17 years old. He would definitely have
> >a new wife, who then provided him with nine more children. John died 28
> >1816 in Lanier Twp., Preble Co., OH.
> > I had forgotten I had this connection until you mentioned Phoebe.
> > Lydia Brubaker then married Abraham Flora, son of John Henry Flora and
> >Sarah Harter. If you have anything not in the Jacob Flora Family book I
> >would very much like to update my information on this branch of the Harter
> >Bob Harter
> >----- Original Message -----
> >From: "Dwayne Wrightsman (by way of Joe Bosserman <>)"
> >To: <>
> >Sent: Monday, May 19, 2003 7:58 PM
> >Subject: [BRE] Lydia (Brubaker) Flora: Carroll Co., IN
> >>The parents of your Lydia Brubaker (1829-1872) were John Brubaker and
> >>The parents of John Brubaker (1777-1846) were John Brubaker and Anna
> >>(Earlier today I wrote about the ancestors of Anna Meyer on Brethren-L.)
> >>The parents of Mary Frantz (1793-1876) were Christian Frantz and Mary
> >>(Mary Frantz was the second wife of this John Brubaker. His first wife
> >>Phoebe Harter.)
> >>John Brubaker (b. c1748) emigrated from Ibersheim, Germany, in 1754.