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From: John Zimmerman <>
Subject: Re: WILLIAMS
Date: Sat, 28 Mar 1998 09:41:47 -0700


FAITH733 wrote:

> I did not mean to start a flame war on the list. I thought I was mearly asking
> for information that I was unaware of, being from the USA.
> I worote>
> <My question is, does England include Wales and Cornwall or just
> England? >
> I want to thank Sandy, Rick, John, Ken, Linda, Colleen, Emily and all of
> you who were kind enough to respond and help me find the answer.
> I love this list and enjoy reading it wether I end up being English or
> Cornish, I still have hope of being Cornish through my TRIMBATH roots, which I
> have no proof of yet.
>
> For all who so kindly responded about the matters of the person who gives
> the information: I understand that personnaly as of yesterday when my
> mother's sister died and my daughter ( who works for the local newspaper and
> writes the obits) received the information from the undertaker. The information
> was given by a cousin- by- marriage and was incorrect. The cousin only placed
> the names of family members by Nicknames ( Betty) instead of Elizabeth, etc. and
> had my grandfather's middle initial wrong, and told the undertaker that there
> was 2 brothers instead of 1 ( definately wrong ) I had my daughter call the
> undertaker back and give him the correct info on the middle initial and my
> mother's true name, but the rest of it remains in nicknames only. That is how my
> aunt's children want it. I find this to be so sad for anyone trying to get
> information years from now. Out of respect to my aunt, I did not argue the
> point with her children, I just let it go as is but inside, I have a torrment
> for the info that was given. This is just an example of how things get
> confused.
> I think they should have asked my mother about the information and not a
> distant cousin, certainly a sister would have the correct information.
> Sorry to bend your ear on this, I just wanted to express how things get
> confused.
> Once again, thank you all for your help It was much appreciated..........
> PS: I am staying on the list anyway as I enjoy the parties, the conversation,
> the stories and mostly the hopes that I will find CORNISH Roots.

Hi, Faith,

Please accept my condolences in the death of your aunt.

I think you will find that "flame wars" are few and far between on this list.
Discussions, however, are found in abundance, and there is almost never any rancor
involved. Although many of us feel our ancestral, geographic, ethnic, etc. ties
very strongly, we also understand that many others are not aware of those strong
feelings, so don't worry about asking questions that request clarification of
Cornwall's relationship to certain areas or nations. It only gives many of us a
chance to explain how we feel, and how things really are, and have been.

Your experience with incorrect information being passed to the undertaker, and on
to the newspaper, happens all too often. It does point out a sometimes excellent
source of information. In this country (U.S.A.), in the 19th century, and the
first half of the 20th century, it was not uncommon for a very detailed record of
someone's life to be created by the funeral parlor. Many researchers fail to
explore this avenue. Of course some funeral parlors won't release the information
they have gathered (makes me wonder why they bothered! ;-), but it's worth a try
when nothing else seems to work.

Glad you are staying with the list, and good luck with your TRIMBATH connection to
Cornwall.

Best regards,

John Zimmerman

Researching - Buzza, Costillo, Davis, Dewey, Hesson, Zimmerman
Ignorance is its own reward :-)

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