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From: Herma Gumpert <>
Subject: Re: Dutch Marriage
Date: Mon, 14 Sep 1998 13:09:26 +0200
Joan Tooten wrote:
> Interesting matters here.
> Perhaps William-Jan van den Laar could explain what is means in Dutch:
> "trouwen met de handschoen" (Soory, I do not have a decent word for
> Joan Tooten
> [Within a couple of weeks 25 years married in Holland]
> On 12 Sep 98 14:17:02 GMT, (Willem-jan Van De
> Laar) wrote:
> >In article <>, Devriesm
> ><> wrote:
> >> Hi all,
> >> I know that the people of the Netherlands that are getting
> >> married in a church
> >> must also get married by (town person) in city hall. I have
> >> both (two) marriage
> >> dates, but wonder does the church service come first or last?
> >When people in the Netherlands would like to mary in the church the have to
> >mary first in the townhall for a rigistrar or registration officer. He writes
> >the marriage in the 'registration of births, mariages and death' (In Dutch;
> >huwelijksregister van de burgerlijke stand).
> >The marriage for the church is, in Dutch; kerkelijk huwelijk)
> >> How would I list
> >> them?
> >> Would I say city hall marriage?
> >In Dutch it is called 'burgerlijk huwelijk'. In my simple English dicionary is
> >tis translated as; 'register of fice wedding'
> > (Willem-Jan)
> >|Fidonet: Willem-jan Van De Laar 2:500/155.5157
> >| Standard disclaimer: The views of this user are strictly her/his own.
'Trouwen met de handschoen' means marrying with a partner who is absent
This was e.g. done during the time the Dutch were in Indonesia. An
engaged girl would not be allowed to travel to her fiancee in Indonesia,
before she was properly married. So the male would 'send a glove' to
Holland as his sign and a written statement that he agreed in the
marriage, and a friend or relative would wear the glove and would
'marry' as a stand-in for his friend. After that the girl would go to
her groom. Later, when there was radio or telephone, the groom would
'attend' the ceremony by radio-contact, so he could say yes himself.
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