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From: "Lizzie Love" <>
Subject: Re: [TRIVVIES] Mothers
Date: Tue, 1 Feb 2005 09:31:17 -0000
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I'm glad you've got that off your chest, Frances. Your mother sounds a bit
like mine, although mine was actually dangerous and had secret lives
undetected beneath an aura of unassailable rectitude.
> The problem is Sue that you grow up thinking it must be your fault!
> Other children have parents who are nice to them. The fact that yours
> aren't must show something is wrong with you! The result was that I had
> to try ten times harder! I thought there must be some trick to living
> on this earth that somehow I didn't understand! I could see that other
> people found life a doddle so it must be my fault if I didn't find it
> Coming home after school I was so scared of both my parents. Felt sick
> as I approached the house. Father was a school teacher. He taught older
> children at my primary school. I was frightened to speak to him! When I
> fell over and cut my knee badly and pleaded not to be taken to him! He
> said "I must have intelligent people about me!" Thank goodness he left
> home when I was eight! Don't say that's why mother is the way she is.
> Apparently she was like that as a child!
> I often wanted to run away and live with grandmother but that would
> have got her into trouble. Whever she came for Christmas she came with
> such hopes of "A happy family time!" But left in tears! She would say
> "I just want us to be happy together!" And mother would say "Oh for
> God's sake mother!"
> Mother wants everything around her to be perfect apart from her
> behaviour! If every we say anything we don't get anywhere. Its always
> other people who are unreasonable not her! I get on well with my
> children. I would never complain if they didn't do a job properly. They
> would learn gradually and they have. We have lots of cuddles even
> though they are now grown up! They are not keen on their grandma but do
> the right thing, be polite, spend some time with her, even feel sorry
> for her when she's ill.
> What can we do? The rest of my life is pretty good. I'm just improving
> after a long illness spanning two and a half years, I have an honest,
> hard working husband who loves his family, a nice house, a loving old
> cat and good friends. I just have this alien who lives amongst us and
> we all wish she would go back to the planet she came from!
> Oh dear bored you all to death now!
> Love Frances
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