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From: "Diana Gale Matthiesen" <>
Subject: RE: [DNA] What to do about reluctant brothers: for Lois
Date: Sun, 12 Mar 2006 09:06:34 -0500
In-Reply-To: <4414141B.4070006@mchsi.com>


As Rebekah said, you've no right, legally or ethically, to take the sample
without his permission. But there's such a thing as offering an incentive, and
it depends on how badly you want the sample.

I would offer to not only pay for the test, but to give him a bonus, say $100.
Or more. Everyone has their price, and if you want something from someone who
doesn't care to give it, they do deserve some compensation for giving in to your
request. If he's the last living male in your line, I would view it as a gift
to your entire family, present and future generations.

Diana

P.S. I'd start the negotiations with an offer of $20. No sense in going
overboard at the outset. ;-)

>
> wrote:
>
> As a sister, I am sure you know that brothers by their very
> nature can
> be a challenge. With DNA testing all of the usual ethical quandaries
> apply.... It is unethical to take a DNA sample and publish the
> information without consent.
< snip>
>
> wrote:
> >
>
> > What do you do if your sole brother left living in your
> father's line drags
> > his feet about being tested? My sisters have made some
> suggestions such as
> > grab whatever container he last drank from and send that
> in, is this realistic?
> >

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