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From: "Anne Welch" <>
Subject: Re: [MON] burial traditions
Date: Sat, 5 May 2007 21:58:50 +0100
In-Reply-To: <001701c78cc9$a3fab460$bb356e58@your0c8d8625a2>


Dear Ann

This was still the custom in the 1980s in Blaina. My grandfather died in
1981 and my cousin Helen and myself were the only women at the graveside
amongst the men of the family. My grandmother, my mother and her sisters
did not join us. My grandmother had no thought of going to the grave.
Helen and I had left South Wales in the 1960s and were used to other customs
and as we both wanted to go we were 'allowed'. I am not sure if this custom
extended to crematorium committals. When my grandmother was cremated in
Pontypool in 1988 the place was full of women.

The situation was pretty similar with regard to pubs too I seem to
remember!!

Best wishes

Anne

-----Original Message-----
From:
[mailto:]On Behalf Of Ann Roberts
Sent: 02 May 2007 15:53
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Subject: [MON] burial traditions


When I was in my teens I was told that no women were allowed to attend my
father's funeral - and this included my mother. I must admit that I thought
that this was a tall story however, on visiting Blaina last week, I was told
that this was an old tradition in South Wales.
Can anyone tell my why? Was it a case of what we would call nowadays - men
did the important things and the women stayed at home with the children - I
don't know how else to express it.
Strange idea
Ann

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