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From: "Ann Roberts" <>
Subject: Re: [MON] burial traditions
Date: Sun, 6 May 2007 12:03:40 +0100
References: <FPEOKEKKIFABOCMDHCEFOENKDCAA.anne.welch@virgin.net>


Thanks, Anne. Definitely a man's world back then!!

Ann
----- Original Message -----
From: "Anne Welch" <>
To: <>
Sent: Saturday, May 05, 2007 9:58 PM
Subject: Re: [MON] burial traditions


>
> Dear Ann
>
> This was still the custom in the 1980s in Blaina. My grandfather died in
> 1981 and my cousin Helen and myself were the only women at the graveside
> amongst the men of the family. My grandmother, my mother and her sisters
> did not join us. My grandmother had no thought of going to the grave.
> Helen and I had left South Wales in the 1960s and were used to other
> customs
> and as we both wanted to go we were 'allowed'. I am not sure if this
> custom
> extended to crematorium committals. When my grandmother was cremated in
> Pontypool in 1988 the place was full of women.
>
> The situation was pretty similar with regard to pubs too I seem to
> remember!!
>
> Best wishes
>
> Anne
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From:
> [mailto:]On Behalf Of Ann Roberts
> Sent: 02 May 2007 15:53
> To:
> Subject: [MON] burial traditions
>
>
> When I was in my teens I was told that no women were allowed to attend my
> father's funeral - and this included my mother. I must admit that I
> thought
> that this was a tall story however, on visiting Blaina last week, I was
> told
> that this was an old tradition in South Wales.
> Can anyone tell my why? Was it a case of what we would call nowadays -
> men
> did the important things and the women stayed at home with the children -
> I
> don't know how else to express it.
> Strange idea
> Ann
>
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