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Subject: [Melungeon] Re: To tell or not?
Date: Sat, 6 Jan 2001 12:26:37 EST


HI Guys!

I think each family is different and this is a difficult thing to have to
deal with. In my case I told some of my family and not others. A couple of
the ones that I told were not pleased, but they didn't shun me for telling
them. In some of the families, I told the cousins and let them decide whether
or not to tell their parents. I was not pushy about it, and for a couple of
the SC/GA cousins, I prefaced it with "I think I have found some information
indicating that there just possibly might be black ancestry in our family.
How do you feel about this?" If the answer was positive I went on with the
story and if not, I simply said, "Well, if you want to know more about this
just let me know, otherwise I won't bother you with it."

So far the family has not fractured. We do the best we can and hope for the
best and that is all that can be asked of anyone.
NancyS

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