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Subject: Re: [ROOTS-L] Rude Cousins
Date: Thu, 4 Aug 2005 01:09:43 EDT



In a message dated 8/3/2005 9:48:25 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time,
writes:

Two questions: how to tactfully set up the relationship so it is a
two-way street? I have already posed a question to her (asked for
data source) and have not received a response, only that she wants the
photograph.

How to handle this situation? I don't want that icky feeling of having been
used.



This is what I would do:

1). Make a copy of the photograph and have it digitally saved to CD as
well.

2). Send her the original, since it's already been said logically it
belongs to her branch.

3). Send any information I have on my family line that is available for
anyone to find (factual information) to anyone I know to be one of my relatives -
including this person to whom you refer.

4). Not care about credit or what the other person does with the
information. I know what I have, and I have whatever level of confidence in my data
that I require to be satisfied.

In the past 6 months I was able to locate my mother's brother and his
daughter, whom I haven't had contact with since before 1988. My uncle was not
doing well. I sent my cousin the information I had gathered in the past year
along with some pictures (including a digital picture of his mother at her
confirmation from around 1915). My uncle was able to confirm several of my
speculations as to his grandparents and his aunts. My cousin said that her dad was
so happy to see the pics and the information.

My uncle died a week ago. If my cousin wants to take my information and put
it on a website or print it up as her own, more power to her. I don't own
the information. I only own the effort I put into it, and knowing that it
brought some happiness to my uncle's last months is more than enough "credit"
for me.

Just my two cents :).



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