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From: "Kith-n-Kin" <>
Subject: [ROOTS-L] Re: Rude Cousins
Date: Thu, 4 Aug 2005 08:54:02 -0700
In-Reply-To: <20050804035343.12689.qmail@web34103.mail.mud.yahoo.com>


Tactful?

How about up front?

You could say, preferably in a letter, something like this.

" I would really like to share this picture with you, and will be happy to make a copy, but need to make
sure it is going to the correct place.

As soon as I receive the information from you that I requested [here, specify exactly what you requested],
and can ensure that you indeed come from that family, I'll send it along.

In the meantime, here is a copy of the photograph. [not a very good copy, I'd say, just a Xerox]"

Or, "I am happy to send you the photograph, which is mine by inheritance, but believe this is a two-way
street. I really need the information you have, and will be glad to exchange."

There, is that more tactful?

By the way, where is this cousin? Close enough to visit? Maybe she *thinks* she cannot trust you -- go
figure -- and is behaving this way because she thinks you'll get the information and never send the
picture. I always like to meet these new cousins face-to-face.

Regards,

Pat (in Tucson) -- who just remembered she had a photo of a non-relative that she needs to send to someone
<my bad>

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