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From: "Linda Lambert" <>
Subject: RE: [TMG] I need your advice - sticky situation
Date: Thu, 7 Jul 2005 12:38:16 -0700
In-Reply-To: <8C7513C64814A7E-B9C-1CA16@mblk-d33.sysops.aol.com>


Sure it's related to TMG <grin> I can't figure out how to enter the
situation in TMG!

Linda

> -----Original Message-----
> From: [mailto:]
> Sent: Thursday, July 07, 2005 11:54 AM
> To:
> Subject: Re: [TMG] I need your advice - sticky situation
>
> Two thoughts, Linda:
>
> (a) your question is totally unrelated to The Master Genealogist -- guess
we need to
> designate it as "OT"; and
>
> (b) when this happened to me (my sill-living mother's dead granddad
appears to
> have had an extra-marital affair producing a child born just prior to the
1900
> census), I first showed my mother the census and asked whether she had any
idea
> what it meant, and let her digest the newfound facts over a period of
time. I did
> further research (pulled death certs, etc.) to attempt to firm up the
facts before
> recording anything in my database. It's now in there for my living kin to
see &
> understand, as best I know it, but I would not have shared it if all the
principles
> were not long dead. I'm still pretty careful with the information -- it's
not in any
> public area. It appears the illegitimate daughter either was never
informed of her
> birth father, or if so, she chose not to pass the information any further,
so it would
> be news to her descendants to learn the identity of her real father, and I
don't see it
> as being my job to hunt them down and inform them.
>
> Good luck, and be cautious!
>
> Don Boyd
>
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Linda Lambert <>
> To:
> Sent: Thu, 7 Jul 2005 11:20:16 -0700
> Subject: [TMG] I need your advice - sticky situation
>
>
> I've come across a very sticky situation and I'd like to know how you all
> would handle this.
>
>
>
> My uncle and his wife are both deceased (back in the 1980's). I'm still
> researching this, but it seems that Uncle James had a daughter, either
> before his marriage to Aunt Agnes (or after). . At any rate, Aunt Agnes
is
> not the mother of this previously unknown daughter. None of my family
knows
> about this, and it would totally disrupt everything if they did. Aunt
Agnes
> and Uncle Jim have one surviving son that I am NOT close to, but I'd bet
my
> bottom dollar he doesn't know he has a living sister.
>
>
>
> Would you..just NOT enter the information about her? Or..is there some
way
> to add her (she's presumably still living and should be about my age) and
> mark this so it would never NEVER print any information about her? Can you
> exclude a "person" from reports, etc.?
>
>
>
> On the other hand, I'd like to have my information as correct as it can be
> in case she finds out on her own and comes to us for information about her
> background.
>
>
>
> I'm riding a very thin fence rail on this one and it's very uncomfortable.
>
>
>
> Linda
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
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